What is psychological abuse?
From the book by Andrey Sokolov and Tatiana Sokolova "The world and humans for students and their parents".
In addition to physical violence, which is expressed in fights, beatings and slapping on the head, there is also psychological violence.
You've probably heard:
"What are you stupid!"
"Are you a fool?"
"Don't be smart here!"
"Do not reason!"
"Nothing will come of you!"
"Your hands are growing out of the wrong place!"
These are just a few examples of phrases from the arsenal of psychological rapists.
Sometimes people, including teachers and parents, insulting, add: "I'm out of love!", "We care about you."
A strange concept. It's like trying to prove your love by beatings.
All this is verbal poison. Psychologists call people who produce such poison toxic. Communication with such people must be minimized so as not to get poisoned.
You can stop hanging out with a toxic friend, leave music school with a toxic teacher, but it's hard to limit your interactions with toxic teachers in school or toxic relatives.
We continue to communicate with them because they are our relatives. Because that's the way it is, that's the tradition. And this leads to new blows and psychological trauma.
Good manners dictate that it is impolite to put an adult relative in his place, even if he says inappropriate things and is mentally abusive. And here it is just right to ask yourself - are these really good rules? Or is it cheating. And the rules are really bad.
Do these "rules of good taste" correspond to Kant's laws?
The lack of crystal clear principles and understanding of what is good and what is bad generates violence against the individual.
Having committed psychological violence and having encountered resistance, the aggressor often begins to tell that he was misunderstood, that his words were altered, that he did not want to offend anyone and immediately goes on the attack - “I was joking, but you were stupid, and was offended ". Again he turns to psychological abuse.
One of the main problems of humanity is the lack of tolerance and respect for another person.
If you cannot say anything positive about a person or a product of his activity, it is better to just shut up. It will benefit both of you. Anything is better than corroding each other with negative energy, like acid.